My good friend Carlos was killed last Friday in the kitchen of Turner Fisheries, where I used to work, by a cook who I used to smoke cigarettes with by the employee entrance. He was stabbed to death after a fight broke out between them. Tomorrow I am going to the funeral, and I hope that it will help me work out some of the conflicting feelings I have. I am angry that this could go down, because its so stupid for anyone to kill another person.
I want to vent some steam re: the coverage, especially from the Boston Herald, who printed such hyperbole as, “The busy chef station inside the Turner Fisheries Restaurant & Bar turned into hell’s kitchen yesterday afternoon when a hot-under-the-collar cook knifed to death a “pretty boy” waiter who he suspected of spreading rumors about him, police sources and witnesses said.” I mean I’ve known for quite a while the kind of crap the Herald prints, but Carlos wasn’t just some “pretty boy”. He took care of himself, and was a good father to his son.
The Globe, no better, though less sensational, actually included a quote from a tourist who wanted to eat at Turner Fisheries, which has been closed since all this happened. The quote blows my mind. “Janet Reilly , who was in town from Monterey, Calif., had tried to eat at Turner Fisheries but was turned away.
Who cares what some West Coast tourist says about stabbings? I don’t see how that is relevant to my friend’s murder. I’ve heard that the Westin tried to re-open Turner Fisheries the next day, Saturday, but the Union and the employees weren’t having it. I cannot imagine going back to work at that restaurant, and I hope they stay closed for as long as it takes for everyone to find a new job. And I hope the Westin pays out millions of dollars to Carlos’ family.
Sensitive is the word I would employ to describe myself at this point. Sensitive and sad. Hopefully I will be able to be with everyone I used to work with at the funeral tomorrow and we will be able to talk about all this crap. Until then, I don’t know how to say goodbye to my friend. He introduced me to Riley’s Roast Beef.
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bear i am so sorry that this happened. it’s truly horrific and my thoughts go out to the people working at turner’s and the families and friends of the victim and the purpetrator.
there is not really any sense that you can make of such an act of rage and violence, but i hope you can somehow take care of yourself and those affected as you mourn.
My sincerest condolences to Carlos’ family.
The most meaningful gesture you could give to Carlos’ family is to simply share the good stories about him and let them know what a good person, good friend and good father he was and how you were proud to be his friend. It’s not the easiest thing to do, to speak with parents of a murdered child, but there is solace in knowing their son was cared about.
Keep being sensitive. It keeps your human decency intact. Others could learn from being like you.
Talk to you soon.
heeey there. haven’t been reading your website for awhile and just saw this post. i know it comes a little too late but i am sincerely sorry about carlos. i’m pretty sure i remember him, the laughing boy with the bouncing curls? i think we went out to eat with him and i drove him home once. its a couple months too late but i’m sorry you had to go through this and i hope you are keeping his memory alive in your heart. even though we were going through our problems, i remember him as always having a smile on his face and genuinely caring about you. i’m glad that he touched your life, even if it was for a short time. xoxo
Let me start by saying thanks for putting this up on behalf of my cousin Carlos.I grew up with him and always looked up to him as an older brother I never had.He always took care of me growing up and looked out for me.I could never explain how much I and much of my family will dearly miss him.I could only watch as his son(my godson) grows up to be so much like him.It’s hard to see him without his dad and can only imagine how my son would feel to not have me around to help him and guide him throughout his life.Thanks again.I also wanted to tell you I enjoyed the video of Carlos acting like a jamaican with you.He was a great person and will be missed.